Self love in Action
Brain Tracy, the multimillionaire life/business coach recommends standing in front of a mirror daily, repeating, "I love me". Frankly, that makes me reach for the sick bag.
True self-love is more nuanced and much of my work as a counselor/mentor/ therapist centres around cultivating self-love. The Inner Union work Kalyani Ma Mukti and I offer jointly are powerful and subtle tools for cultivating self-love.
But self-love is not just a warm and fuzzy feeling inside. It's something you DO. It's a practice that you engage with, often in the most down to earth ways, in every moment of every day.
With my clients, before we get into any deep emotional/spiritual processing, I always seek to establish a practical, action-based foundation of self-care that usually involves -
Getting good sleep
Getting good exercise
Creating an orderly and supportive living environment and routine including sacred space
Forest bathing (time in nature)
Journaling/ self-reflection practices
This is not about imposing an onerous discipline on my clients (although self-discipline IS self-love). It's about in a gentle, flowing, "wu wei" kind of way, learning to care for yourself in small, but genuine ways.
This is self-love in action.
Talking of forest bathing. We have a weekend forest bathing retreat coming up in May in the woods of La Source, our centre in the south of France. Here are the details.
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Who Am I?
I am Nicholas Hudis an author and mentor dedicated to the path of self-cultivation. After 25 years as a therapist/coach, I see that the need is not for therapy but for cultivating the skill to live wisely, ethically and purposefully. I am no "sage" but the wisdom of Confucius, the Buddha and the Stoic philosophers guides me on a daily basis. My desire is to share this inspiration, through my writings and personal mentoring, and make a difference to your life too.