How To Be Porn Free

Uncovering the real cause of porn addiction

Do you want to be free from porn?

I’ve been actually been watching porn this week!  No, not for kicks, but researching an article exploring the phenomenon of the porn industry.

It’s been interesting to observe how ultimately boring and empty I find even so called “high class” erotic sites.

That I am doing this at all is amazing because ten or fifteen years ago I was well hooked on porn despite being a healer and a “spiritual” man. I could justify what I was doing…. my marriage was not working, I had unsatisfied needs, the images that turned me on were not abusive or exploitative… but the truth was I was hooked. It felt as if a dark compulsive demon possessed me. I was Jekyl and Hyde.

I’m writing this today because porn is by far the number one issue among the men I work with as 1:1 coaching clients. It’s wrecking relationships and tearing men apart. It exploits and disempowers men, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

There are a lot of anti porn campaigners out there on the internet now. The current trend is to view porn addiction entirely in terms of brain chemistry: our instinctive reproductive urge and our dopamine-led hunting and reward drive getting misdirected into cyberspace rather than towards real flesh and blood.

There is some truth in this. But it is not the whole story. If it were simply about biochemistry, all men would be hooked on porn and it would be easy to quit simply by going cold turkey for a while.

Have you tried to go cold turkey? Did it really work, or did the demon creep back?

No, there is a deeper reason some men get compulsively and destructively hooked on porn that is more complex and often hidden in the unconscious mind.It’s the reason why going cold turkey doesn’t work and surprisingly it often has little to do with sex!

Understanding this deeper reason made possible the shift for me from porn addicted double life to feeling whole and powerful as a man.

If you want to be free of porn, and believe me, life is immeasurably richer without it. You will need to work with this hidden cause of porn addiction.

And trust me, this is not something you can do on your own. You need a guide. Sadly, conventional therapists and counselors are often not much help. For a start most of them are women and that can makes it hard for a man to open up. Often, too, such professionals shy away from sexual issues. Then there can be a subtle judgemental message going on… that porn is shameful..... that you are a bad man.

Let’s be clear on this. Porn messes up your life and your relationships, but that doesn’t make it shameful. I think simply misguided would be a better word.

This is something I feel strongly about. It is one of the things that motivated me onto my life path as a mentor and coach to men.

Do you want to be free of porn? Free of shame and deception. Do you want to tackle that hidden root cause and free yourself from those dark uncontrollable feelings that drive you to porn?

I want to help you. And that’s why I am making a few time slots available in the coming week for one hour Porn Free Breakthrough Coaching Sessions.

On these sessions we’ll get connected on Skype and I’ll help you

  • get over shame and guilt and connect with the vision of the magnificent man you truly are
  • Uncover the hidden, unconscious reasons that are keeping you in the porn trap
  • Leave the session motivated and inspired to be porn free and with a clear roadmap of how to get there.

You can be sure of understanding, confidential expert advice from someone who's been through it and come out on the other side.

I am making just five free Porn Free Breakthrough sessions available from 1-3 April… and it’s strictly first come first serve.

To book your session, click on the link below, choose your time zone, choose your slot fill in the simple application form.Once a pornaholic always a pornaholic? I think not.I look forward to talking to you.

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