If not now, when?
“Putting things off is the greatest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes and denies us the present by promising the future.” (Seneca)
The older I become, the more I am aware that our human lifetime is finite. Yet we tend to live with the illusion that we are immortal, and we will have endless possibilities just over the horizon to fulfil our life purpose. How often have we thought:-
“I’ll do it next time round”
“I’ll get around to it tomorrow”
“I don’t feel like it”
“I’ll do it when I am ready.”
It takes only a moment’s reflection to see how unrealistic such thinking is. There may never be a next time. Tomorrow may never come. Really, we can never be fully ready for anything.
One encounter, one chance
In the Zen tea ceremony tradition, there is a saying, “One encounter, one chance.” To put it another way, every moment, every experience and every person we meet in this life is unique. Each moment is an opportunity to live our purpose. Each opportunity we say “no” to is lost… for ever.
Meeting the inner beloved
Bring more love into your life - starting with self-love. A weekend retreat with Nick Hudis and Kalyani Ma Mukti. April 2020.
I believe that deep in our hearts, all of us know what our life purpose is. We know too, what we need to do to live that purpose. The stumbling block for most of us is simply taking action. Any life purpose worth living is going to take you out of your comfort zone. It is going to take you into uncharted waters. It is going involve risk. That takes courage!
But really, what choice do we have? To seize the opportunity that life presents, or to die having wasted our life?
The day will surely come, all to soon, when there are no more opportunities.
If not now, when?
An old rabbinical saying that speaks strongly to me of the call to know my purpose and do what needs to be done:
“If not now, when?
If not us, who?
If not this, what?”
I recite these words to myself at least once a day like a mantra. It might be something as small as following my daily routine of good self-care. It might be facing up to some big scary issue that needs to be dealt with. It might be something more global such as acting positively on climate change. Small or big. The purpose and action is clear, the only person who can do it is you and the time is now!
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I am Nicholas Hudis an author and mentor dedicated to the path of self-cultivation. After 25 years as a therapist/coach, I see that the need is not for therapy but for cultivating the skill to live wisely, ethically and purposefully. I am no "sage" but the wisdom of Confucius, the Buddha and the Stoic philosophers guides me on a daily basis. My desire is to share this inspiration, through my writings and personal mentoring, and make a difference to your life too.