You could say a coach encourages you to dream and then equips you to make those dreams happen.
I've had many dreams and had to overcome a good few obstacles:
That is a pretty good basis for being a coach!
I've had several successful careers: Archaeologist, guitar teacher, qualified accountant working at a senior level in the city and in government, until a fortuitous redundancy led me to embrace my true mission in natural health and coaching.
However success was not the whole story...
I hit rock bottom. I was stressed out, working at my limit, unfit and my sexual energy was zero. I was unhappy in my marriage and using porn to zone out. Here was I, a supposedly "spiritual man", someone others turned to for wisdom and support.... and yet inside I was a total mess.
Something inside me screamed STOP. I did and took a long hard look at myself.
Like so many men of my generation, I threw the baby out with the bathwater and cut myself off from masculinity in order to reject machismo and patriachy.
My mother was a successful doctor and the principal bread winner. My father a sensitive artist, emotionally absent during my passage in manhood due to mental health problems. I had three older sisters, all clever and dominant. We lived with my granny and a child minder.
Even the cats were female!
I grew up, shy, lonely, bullied as a sissy, rejecting boyish attitudes, dismissive of authority, and, being academically clever, taking refuge in a fortress of intellectual arrogance.
As I passed in manhood I denied my masculinity in the easy but false persona of the soft “new man”. I was a classic Mr Nice Guy on the outside while inside rage and frustration burned.
I was fortunate to already have a background in holistic and spiritual work, so there were teachers to guide me and friends to support. I still made mistakes, did foolish and regrettable things. I still do. Like all of us I am a work in progress.
Approaching 60 I have more energy, more happiness and a richer life than at any previous time. I am clear about who I am and where I am going and I am connected to a deep sense of authentic, mature masculinity.
I have a successful business. My first books will be published soon. I am in a fulfilling relationship. I have a clear spiritual path. I have time and energy to enjoy my passions for being in nature, making music, meditating and savouring good food and fine Chinese teas.
I know that my mission in life is to guide other men on the paths of mature masculinity and conscious sexuality.
So what are your dreams and passions?... And what's getting in the way?
Are you inspired and excited to overcome the challenges you are facing in your health, your relationships or your life? Do you want to feel great as a man? Let's have a chat and get things moving!
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One year old with my doctor mum
...at 17, shy, lonely and intellectually arrogant